While you consider the troublesome situation you find yourself in, something is happening: time is passing. Every minute of every day you are choosing to allow your situation to remain unchanged, to worsen, or to improve. You are making a choice and your situation is a reflection of that choice. The clock keeps ticking regardless of that choice. Which means: it's only temporary. Time will take its toll and the situation will change, eventually, whether or not you step up and do your part.
 
Take control. You have choices. There are many possibilities. Choice and possibility give you opportunity which gives you control to make decisions that are practical rather than emotional, realistic rather than random. The clock keeps ticking, use your time wisely, take advantage of the opportunities you have, seek them out so that you can move toward the outcomes you truly desire. Time can take advantage of you, or you can take advantage of time!

 

Perception is reality: what you choose to see is what you get. It is easy to be blinded by the dire predictions of others; we are inundated with bleak outlooks from a variety of sources. But we choose to accept these projections of fear, insecurity, and failure. Worse, we choose to project them onto our own reality. This is not to say that your situation isn't dire, it may well be. You may be experiencing loss or uncertainty. It's in choosing to stay in the darkness, to hide from possibility that ensures we have no other option than to create and maintain a world of hopelessness.
 
It's time to see clearly. Your situation is what it is. It may be bleak and dire, and it will stay that way if you choose to let it. Or you can realize that somewhere, within all the mess, there are possibilities that will enable you to turn it around. You must want to turn it around, and you must work at turning it around. But you can, you will, if you simply change the way you are looking at it, look at it clearly for what it is, and then choose to make the changes that are required.

The fact is that choosing a more proactive attitude, choosing a more productive perception, making the choice in itself, is not as easy as it sounds. It will take work and it will take determination. And at various points you will decide it's a waste of your time. And at that time you will need to take a deep breath, release it slowly and acknowledge that you can do this. You may not want to, you may wish you didn't have to, but you can do this.
 
You've heard me say this before: "Impossible is defined by the limitation of your imagination." As well as: "Can't isn't a measure of ability, it's a measure of desire." You can find a solution, if you are open to doing so. And the "can't" can't stop you if you have the desire to get it done. So human up! We falter and fall and sometimes get weighed down by it all. It is human to wallow in the unfairness. But just as human to pick ourselves up, little by little. It's just a matter of time, it's just a matter of attitude, and it's just a matter of choice. You can do this, you will get through this, and you will do more than just survive it. What better time than now to start doing it?